Do you want to feel sexier in your body? I believe it’s every woman’s right to feel sexy, radiant and alive. To me, sexiness is the expression of feeling totally at ease within yourself and loving every moment you get to spend in your own body. True sexiness has nothing to do with egotism; it’s the result of feeling fully grounded in who you are and completely owning that. Claiming your sexiness requires that you show up, in each moment with an unshakable knowing of the true essence of who you are.
Here’s 3 surefire ways to help you step up and claim the sexy, confident, unique and beautiful being that you are.
1. Take Care of You
It’s hard to feel sexy when you feel tired, stressed out, overworked and under-played. Taking the time to nurture your body + mind + spirit is super important to feeling sexy. This means eating healthy whole foods, soaking up some sunshine, being active and getting enough movement and plenty of sleep. Taking enough time for yourself and loving yourself up with acts of self-kindness, as well as feeling calm, rested and rejuvenated will go a long way towards supporting a sexier you.
2. Do the “Power Pose”
Are you familiar with the saying “fake it until you make it”? This popular confidence catchphrase is actually rooted in a depth of scientific backing. The more you act a certain way, the more you will feel that way. So the more you embody sexiness, the sexier you’re going to feel – and how you feel is what counts.
To learn more about the actual science of this, I recommend watching this awesome TED talk by social psychologist Amy Cuddy. She explains how “power posing” — standing in a posture of confidence, even if you’re not feeling so hot — can affect your brain chemistry, including testosterone and cortisol levels in the brain which can influence how confident you feel and influence other peoples perceptions of you. Isn’t that incredible? The way you express your body language can actually affect and influence your body chemistry. Think about it. If you’re standing with your shoulders slouched and your head down with your arms folded in front of you this feels very different than if you’re standing tall with your chin up, and hands confidently placed on your hips or by your side. The more you “power pose” the more confident and sexier you’re going to feel.
3. Fall In Love With Your Life
I know it’s easy to forget that this life we live is just fleeting on by. Get inspired and feel passionate about the life you’re living. This radiates sexiness. I know it’s easy to compare, judge, self-criticize and even long for a better body or even a different life. Fall in love with the life that you are living. Stop comparing and just start living. Focus on the life that you want to create for yourself. It doesn’t matter how funny, smart, talented or sexy anyone else is, just focus on being happy in your own life and doing the things that bring you joy. That is sexy.
Falling in love with your life means falling in love with you. This is not vanity. This is not narcissism. This is a genuine love and respect for the miracle that you are. Express that miracle in any way that truly brings you joy, and what you will have is a sexy, confident and beautiful expression of you!
Take action! What’s one thing you can do right now that will make you feel radiant, sexy and passionate about life?
Aloha from the Big Island of Hawaii,